It can take less than three hours to have an affair. Yet once your affair becomes exposed, you can pretty much count on that sooner or later it will be public knowledge. You will fairly quickly start to feel that the topic will never end. You will find yourself drowning in a sea of endless repetitive questions, countless accusations and threats. Your name will be nominated as the favorite person to gossip abouut in your community. All this reflects the truth that affairs are much easier to get into than it is to resolve them within a marriage.
It will be like closing a door on a Tsunami. However long the affair was, once it has been exposed or discovered, you and your mate will spend an enormous amount of time, sometimes several years, discussing it. In many instances, it will never get resolved and remains as a lingering wound which can be used as a justification in many of the conflicts that arise between the two of you. “Of course I treated you unfairly, but that was nothing compared to what you did.”